Tuesday, September 27, 2011

PARTY OR FUNERAL


MY EXPERIENCE ON SATURDAY 27TH AUGUST, 2011.
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t was a calm Saturday; I went for a wedding at Sakumono, from there to Tema Community 7 (the industrial city of Ghana)  to visit an aunt. At about 7 pm I left Tema for Kasoa in the Central region of Ghana but had to make a stopover at Kaneshie (the oldest and largest market in Accra). I got to Kaneshie at around 7:30pm to board a bus to Kasoa. I had to wait with other passenger also going to Kasoa for a bus.
A Benz bus arrived after waiting for some few minutes. We pushed our way into the bus. It was a fierce struggle as that was the normal practice at the Kaneshie lorry station for passengers going to Kasoa. As if the struggle is not enough, the drivers also increase the fares by 25% and passengers pay with little resistance because the conductors (mates) announce the fares even before allowing passengers to enter the buses.
We took off immediately the bus got full but I realized that the bus seriously smelled of alcohol. This was because almost half of the passengers were drunk. The bus did not only smell of alcohol but also was very noisy a common characteristic of a group of drunken people. I looked around and judging from the attire of some the passengers and their conversation realized they were from funerals and the others one can say branched to the “blue kiosk” (a small drinking spot) after work or from wherever they went.
A few minutes after takeoff the noise died down not because people stopped talking but because most passengers “went to bed”. Heads could not be controlled as they moved from left to right “head batting” passengers sitting by them. One passenger who was sitting by the window was constantly hitting his head against the glass and the edges of the window. I got scared and prayed he doesn’t break the glass because that would have been a serious accident since this man had no hair on his head and the sides of the window had sharp, pointed, rusty edges. One can imagine what could have happened.
We had not done even half the journey, that I got startled, only to look back to see one passenger snoring profusely and uncontrollably. He was not just snoring but was also serious reeking of alcohol and his breathe was bad.
I had my fare share of the “head batting” as I was sandwiched between a drunken man and a drunken middle aged woman. This middle aged woman was drunk beyond reasonable recognition. I gathered from her dressing and conversation with her behind us that they had travelled far to attend the funeral of a woman who died at the age of 39. I really doubted if these ladies attended a funeral of someone who from their own conversation died under very bizarre circumstances. From all indication these ladies really went to party and even took some of the drinks away to continue the partying when they get to their destinations.

“It’s party time”


I have observed with much pain in my heart this attitude of most young men and women who have made it a habit of attending funerals every weekend for only one reason; “the availability of free alcoholic beverages”.  Because these drinks are served freely they drink excessively without control.
Funerals from my understanding are ceremonies for disposing off the dead. They are by no means merry making ceremonies or occasions for one to be excessively happy and over joyous. They are, to the best of my knowledge moments for mourning and sober reflecting. We must look at the fact that we have lost someone so dear, someone we can no longer sit and share ideas with, someone we can no longer do good to and receive any good thing from. We must also consider that the world has lost someone whose ideas could have transformed lives, brought hope to the hopeless, fed the hungry, and father the fatherless. Funerals are therefore not merry making occasions and over drinking. What are rejoicing over? Are we rejoicing because someone is dead? Have we lost our feeling for fellow humans and our emotions?  Funny enough those who drink more and make merry give very little or no donations at all to the bereaved family. Families burying the dead have not only lost a loved one but also lose out financially.
Let us rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn.
J B Eshun © 2011



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